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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

What kind of free are you?



How free are you?
50, 60, 75 or 99.5% free? Guess what, if your not 100% free, your not free at all.

Our society loves freedom. Freedom of religion, freedom to vote, freedom to work anywhere that will take you, freedom to choose to eat or not eat organic food, freedom to choose which airline or bus company you use, freedom to choose the shop you buy you clothes in, in fact in our society the ultimate punishment is through imprisonment.

Have you seen the movie “Braveheart”? One of my favorite parts:

“I am William Wallace, and I see before me an army of my countrymen here in defiance of tyranny. You have come to fight as free men, and free men you are. You are free, free from badges, free from flesh and free to love. What will you do with that freedom? Will you fight?”

A tall soldier near the front eyes the huge opposing forces arrayed across the valley and then answers, "Fight against that? No, we will run, and we will live."

Wallace responds, "Ay, fight and you may die, run and you'll live. At least a while! And dying in your beds many years from now, you would be willing to trade all the days from this day to that for one chance, just one chance, to come back here and tell our enemies that they may take our lives, but they'll never take our freedom."

In the movie, “Chicken Run” What does Rocky the American rooster think freedom is. Freedom, according to Rocky Roads is being free of responsibility and not having to care for others. I don’t want to spoil the ending for those who haven’t seen it but Rocky falls in love and discovers that this kind of freedom is not possible.

Most of you will know what it’s like to fall in love or have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Suddenly you want to please them and you end up doing things you would never have chosen to do if it was just you.

You make compromises, why? Because you want the other person to be happy. Just think of all that God has done for us. We are to respond in love to God. Does that not mean we have to give up a bit of our freedom to do what we want? What about loving our neighbor as ourselves. Does that entail giving up of freedom?


1 Corinthians 10:23, 24 -
“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.

Unlike our society personal freedom to do what ever you like is not what it means when it’s said that Christ has set us free. But, it is easy in our society to forget this and live our Christian lives as if personal freedom to do what we like is the be all and end all. Christ gives us our freedom so that we are free to follow him and love.

He lived his life for the benefit of others. Then he gave his life by dying for us. Christ’s example is of voluntarily giving up freedom for the sake of others. We are called to follow his example.
In Philippians 2:5 “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: “
Christ did all of this and your attitude should be the same. So when you are doing whatever it is you are doing, think about why you are claiming your freedom to do what you want or freedom to love, freedom to give and freedom to give up.

Do you do things because it’s your right and because you’re free to do it and no-one can tell you otherwise or because you love and it’s best for others. So I ask that you to think, reflect on freedom, what we are free from?

Gal. 5:13-14
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

It is absolutely clear that God has called you to a free life. Just make sure you don’t use that freedom as an excuse to do whatever you want to do and destroy your freedom. Rather use your freedom to serve one another in love; that’s how freedom grows. For everything we know about God’s word is summed up in a single sentence: Love others as you love yourself. That’s an act of true freedom.

To quote William Wallace, “You are free, free from badges, free from flesh and free to love. What will you do with that freedom?”

Friday, August 26, 2011

It's been swell...


Looking at the stats of my Blog over the last year has been somewhat depressing.
1) No views over the last month.
2) 1 comment for 2011.
3) Last Thanksgiving I had the most views ever…23.
4) Only have 2 members of my blog and 1 anonymous
5) No hits on my survey…at all!


These are some pretty awful stats and I was marketing my Blog on Facebook.

At this time, I am no longer going to post my writing on the Blogger web site. I was also planning on publishing my book based on my writings here. That’s not going to happen either.

For you few that have read my writing, Thank you so much for your support.

You can always pray for me, specifically for my focus. Seems I lose that a lot!

God Bless!

Paul

Wednesday, August 17, 2011


This week, I decided not to write about a specific subject. I decided to just share some funny observations I have made about the verses in the bible. Please, take these with a grain of salt!

In Genesis 25:30, We find one of the first accounts of Chili being offered to eat.

“He said to Jacob, “Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!” (That is why he was also called Edom – pronounced Eat them?)”

If you have ever watched the movie, “Shrek”, it features a talking Donkey. Now donkeys can’t talk but the Bible does speak of a talking Donkey! In Numbers 22:30, “The donkey said to Balaam, “Am I not your own donkey, which you have always ridden, to this day? Have I been in the habit of doing this to you?”

Did you know that Alabama is mentioned in the Bible?
Ezekiel 20:29 - Then I said to them: What is this high place you go to?’” (It is called Bamah to this day.) I know, that was a reach!

The disciples also had their own car.
Acts 2:1 - And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one (Honda) Accord in one place.

Some of the Christians in the Bible met in the famous Washington DC Hotel.
Nehemiah 8:1 (NIV)
…all the people assembled as one man in the square before the Water Gate.

There was also reckless driving in the bible:
2 Kings 9:20 (NIV)
The lookout reported, "He has reached them, but he isn't coming back either. The driving is like that of Jehu son of Nimshi--he drives like a madman."

The book of Proverbs is full of funny verses...
Proverbs 29:20 (NIV)
There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking.

It’s better to be considered a fool than to open your mouth and leave out all doubt.


Proverbs 31:6 (NIV)
As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.

That’s just disgusting!

Proverbs 27:14 (NIV)
If a man loudly blesses his neighbor early in the morning, it will be taken as a curse.

In other words, don’t wake me up with your prayer.


Proverbs 31:6 (NIV)
Give beer to those who are perishing, wine to those who are in anguish.

Perish the thought!

Then there are the just weird verses...
Job 19:17 (NIV)
My breath is offensive to my wife; I am loathsome to my own brothers.

Maybe if he brushed more often…


Acts 20:9 (NIV)
As Paul spoke on and on, a young man named Eutychus, sitting on the windowsill, became very drowsy. Finally, he fell sound asleep and dropped three stories to his death below.

Moral of this verse is: If your listening to a sermon, leave after the first story.

Deuteronomy 14:21 (NIV)
Do not eat anything you find already dead. You may give it to an alien living in any of your towns and he may eat it, or you may sell it to a foreigner...

Road kill: this has a lot of wrong in it.

I have also compiled a few, errrrr, interesting names in the bible:
Zippor (brother of Zippo?)
Ham
Nimrod
Mash
Jobab (like Joe Bob),
Dorcas (I think I would change this)

Talk about your silent treatment:
Revelations 8:1 (NIV)
When he opened the seventh seal, there was silence in heaven for about half an hour.


Psalms 118 has some interesting facts...
1. Psalm 118 is the middle chapter of the entire Bible.
2. Psalm 117, before Psalm 118 is the shortest chapter in the Bible.
3. Psalm 119, after Psalm 118 is the longest chapter in the Bible.
4. The Bible has 594 chapters before Psalm 118 and 594 chapters after Psalm 118.
5. If you add up all the chapters except Psalm 118, you get a total of 1188 chapters.
6. 1188 or Psalm 118 verse 8 is the middle verse of the entire Bible.

And what is the message found in verse 118? "It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man." - Psalm 118:8


Funnies:
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The boy listened closely as the Pastor read the Bible. 'May I ask a question?' he asked. 'Sure. Go ahead. Ask your question,' replied the Pastor. 'Well, the Bible says that the children of Israel crossed the Red Sea-the children of Israel built the temple-the children of Israel did this and the children of Israel did that. Didn't the grown-ups ever do anything?'
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On a very cold, snowy Sunday in February, only the pastor and one farmer arrived at the village church. The pastor said, 'Well, I guess we won't have a service today.' The farmer replied: 'Pastor, even if only one cow shows up at feeding time, I feed it.'
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The new pastor was visiting in the homes of his parishioners. At one house it seemed obvious that someone was at home, but no answer came to his repeated knocks at the door. He took out a card, wrote 'Revelation 3 verse 20' on the back and stuck it in the door.
When the offering was processed the following Sunday, he found that his card had been returned. Added to it was this cryptic message, 'Genesis 3 verse 10.'
Reaching for his Bible to check out the citation, he broke up in gales of laughter. Revelation 3 verse 20 begins 'Behold, I stand at the door and knock.'
Genesis 3 verse 10 reads, 'I heard your voice in the garden and I was afraid for I was naked.'


Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Simon Says!

Remember the saying, “All is fair in love and war?” This is quoted by Frank Farleigh in the late 1850’s. It simply meant, there are no rules when it comes to love and war. My Mom used to tell me, “Now you remember to play fair.” What’s is fair?

We are offended by life’s unfairness. For reasons that we do not understand “Unfair things do happen to good people” and perhaps even more inexplicable is sometimes “Good things happen to unfair people.”

Our national constitution states “all men are created equal.” And while it is true that all humans are created equal in God’s sight and have equal rights and protection under the law, all men are not created equal. I think that we all realize that we are not born with the same opportunities.

Life is not fair. It just isn’t. We have all felt, in moments of distress and pain, that life is not fair. And maybe that God is either out of it or doesn’t care. Why would it be that good people suffer and bad people get the goodies? Why would it be that callous, sinful, spiteful people pile up wealth and power, and the real saints, the salt-of-the-earth people, end up with sickness, debt, pain, and injustice? Why would it be that so many things happen to us, and we feel powerless, we feel abandoned and alone? Why is it that life is not fair?

The bible says:
The city was stressed out when word had spread through the streets that the teacher was on his way. The teacher, the one who had worked wonders up and down the length of Galilee; what would happen here when the priests and Pilate’s supposed powers put the pedal to the metal against him? What could we expect?

Some said that when the teacher would arrive in Jerusalem, God would break open the very gates of heaven, and send legions of angels to rout the Romans. Enough reason to spread palm branches and shout “Hosanna” as he rode in!

Others said no, God won’t deal with the Romans. God will deal with the Temple and will put down its high-and-mighty, money-grubbing priests. The teacher Himself had promised to tear down the Temple with His own hands and then build it again in three days! Wish I was a fly on that wall! There are always people who feel that somebody is to blame and somebody should be punished. Life is unfair!

But still others smiled cynically and suggested that this city had seen Messiahs come and Messiahs go, and that this one would be no different. This one would, like all the others; promise the world and deliver precisely nothing and like all the others before him, stir up hot-headed men always ready for a fight. Those heavy dudes who knew everything days before it happened, just knew that this guy would meet a quick end, like all the others. All they know is that life is not fair and that’s all there is to it. Period.

They were all lined up. The hopeful, the cheated, the cynical. All sorts of people for whom life had not been fair. The procession rounded a corner. You could see him now, the teacher. Staggering under the load of the cross. Stumbling barefoot over the uneven paving blocks in the street. Sweating under the rising sun of and just getting warmer. Half-blinded by streaks of blood in his eyes, dripping down from punctures made by a twist of thorn-twigs pushed down on his brow. It’s not fair to make a man carry the his own execution device; but then life itself is not fair. Nothing is fair.

The crowd murmured; the man under the cross fell to one knee. The centurion was mean and heartless. “Get up”.

The teacher was clearly exhausted, unable to keep going.

The centurion spoke again, “You there!” Simon saw the centurion’s massive hand pointing. “Come here. Pick up his cross.”

Simon felt his heart race, felt a rush of blood to his face; his lips started to form words that would not come. “We need you here. Carry this cross. You’re going to Golgotha with it.”

They compelled a passer-by to carry his cross. It’s not fair. If I had been in Simon’s shoes and had to lift that cross, I would have complained that life is not fair because it feels like things just get worse and worse.

Rome’s rule was an injustice in the first place. It was not right that Rome, by force of arms, should impose itself. It’s just not fair! They were crucifying this man, with hardly any trial; no proper charge and with no compassion. Now they reach out and commandeer a man who has nothing to do with the whole business. He’s a pack mule, gets plucked out of nowhere and made to carry the cross.

And what is God going to do about it? God is doing something! I want to tell you that God is doing something. God is involved. You and I become the miracle that God works when life is not fair.

I don’t know the whole story, but we do know that Simon’s heart was touched that day. Simon felt a whole lot more than the burden of a ten-foot cross on has back. We know that Simon became a follower of Christ and a part of this thing called the church that sprang up behind Jesus. Something grabbed Simon that day and put him into a movement that would attack the injustices of life. Cool!

Do you know what the Christian church did? These followers of Jesus turned around the world of Roman cruelty and brought in real justice. In just a few years, this church attacked dishonesty, undermined capital punishment, worked against slavery, and demanded an end to war! In just a few years, this church changed the status of women, assured life for infants, and built a fellowship across race and class and all sorts of barriers. These Christians turned the very world upside down. They became a beacon for justice, they became God’s instrument for justice.

Simon, who surely must have felt that life was not fair, and thousands of others like him, the poor, the lonely, the despised, and the downtrodden, made up this church. No longer feeling worthless, they became the instruments of God. If life is not fair, how does God work? He uses our experience of injustice to motivate us to work for justice. He takes our pain and energizes it into something that makes a difference.

Do not say, “God is doing nothing.” God is at work in all things for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purposes. God is at work. He is at work through us!

But Wait, There’s more!!! If I had been in Simon’s shoes and had had to lift that cross, I would have felt alone. I would have felt that nobody cared what happened. If I had been in Simon’s shoes and had had to lift that cross, I might have been so blinded by my own pain that I would not have known there was anybody else who cared.

One of the things I know about humans is that when it happens to us, we cannot see beyond the end of our noses. When we hurt, we just want relief. When we are sick, we just want something for the pain. When we are destitute, we just want one good meal. We miss the big picture!

Life is unfair, yes. But do not say that God is doing nothing. God is giving us as gifts to each other. God is taking what happens with one and is using it to strengthen another. God is using what happens to us in this generation to shape our sons and our daughters in the next generation. God is taking the raw material of our suffering and is refining it in the life of others.

So when life doesn’t seem fair, do what Jesus said to do and Simon literally did…
Matthew 16:24-27
Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul? For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father’s glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what they have done.

Simon says, lift your left arm…Haha….no, Take Up Your Cross!

Monday, August 8, 2011

What Gear are you in?



For many years I carried a very heavy load. I was afraid of upsetting people, afraid of what people thought of me. This led to me thinking I wasn’t good enough for anything or anybody. I thought there was something seriously wrong with me, that I was a loner. You know, like I didn’t fit in! That all changed when I put my thinking gears into motion in the right direction.

You are where you are and what you are largely because of the dominating attitudes that occupy your mind. If you allow your negative situation to control your attitude, you might as well turn out the lights because the party’s over. You’re going nowhere - in your relationships, in your career, physically, emotionally and spiritually - with a negative attitude.

Attitude is the major difference between success and failure. Our attitude determines our altitude. When a person is really thinking about something, we sometimes say that we can see the gears turning. The gears are always turning. Our minds are always working. In fact, we think so much faster than we can speak. So, the gears are turning. But too often they are turning in the wrong direction. When our attitude in life is negative, the gears are grinding the wrong way.

When we think this way, we are robbed of our peace! We are not at peace with ourselves when we think, “I’m not good enough!” We are not at peace with others when we think, “I’m not good enough for them!” We are not at peace with God when we think, “I’m a lone wolf!”

That’s why I want to talk to you about how to develop a positive attitude that transcends difficult circumstances. This isn’t a writing about the power of positive thinking. We’re not talking about The Little Engine That Could - "I think I can, I think I can." Some of you are facing God-sized problems and you don’t need fluff - you need some God-sized reasons to be positive.

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

The Bible says that the weapon we must use when there is spiritual conflict is our mind. II Corinthians tells us that we are to bring every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.

Proverbs tells us, "As a man thinks within himself, so he is."

As an American, you have been challenged to think in politically correct ways. But here, we are challenged to think in biblically correct ways. Here, we are being encouraged to get the gears turning the right way I like to suggest three choices we need to make about biblically correct thinking.

1. Choose to do biblically correct thinking for yourself.
I am prone to do what I call being “negative nerd”. It’s looking at myself and focusing on the flaws I see. I’ve been like this for long time. I’m guessing that some of you do the same thing to yourself. We talk to ourselves in such destructive ways. We don’t see ourselves the way God sees us.

In Philippians we read: "What ever things are true...let your mind dwell on these things." Are you thinking thoughts about yourself that are true? So, what’s true?

John 17:17 Jesus prays to the Father, "Your Word is truth."

Psalm 19:9 talking about the Word of God when it says, "The judgments of the Lord are true."

Psalm 119:151 say, “All your Commandments are truth."

Because God is truth, what He says is truth. If you want to know the truth, you go to the Word of God. It’s the focus and foundation of truth. So if I’m going to think on whatever is true, I’m going to dwell on the Word of God first of all.

The whole message of the gospel is that Christ is for me! He is not against me! In Romans 8 we read these words, "If God is for us, who can be against us?"

So, are you thinking thoughts about yourself that are true? Are you thinking thoughts that are righteous – that are right in line with what God says about us? We have to stop the gears from turning the wrong way. We are going to start the gears turning the right way. We must choose to do biblically correct thinking about ourselves.

2. Ok so, how are we thinking about our family and friends.

This is the temptation we have that develop attitudes of loveless-ness. It’s way too easy for some of us to be harsh and critical about our family and friends. We tend to accentuate the negative that we see in their lives.

Again, Philippians says, "Whatever is lovely… think on these things." Lovely means “pleasing,” “attractive,” “amiable.” It’s describing something sweet or gracious or generous or patient. We are to think thoughts about others that serve to cultivate and increase love, friendship, and goodwill among family members and friends.

How many times do we look for the flaws and look for the faults, not only in ourselves, but also in the very people that we say we love the most? We do think about the good qualities of our lives or husbands or children. Instead, we fixate on what’s wrong with them.
If you learn anything by this writing, learn this: “Look for something lovely in the lives of others.”

I Corinthians 4:5
Therefore do not go on passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes, who will bring to light the things hidden in the darkness, and expose the motives on men’s hearts; and then each man’s praise shall come to him from God.
Philippians again says, "Whatever is pure… think on these things”

We have to stop the gears from turning the wrong way. We are going to start the gears turning the right way. We choose to do biblically correct thinking about our family and friends.

3. Are we thinking the right thoughts about our circumstances.

This is a temptation to develop the attitude of bitterness – life isn’t fair! And when you think about it, it really is saying that we don’t like what God is doing in our lives.


The interesting thing about human beings is that we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is to play on the one string we have, and that is OUR attitude and choices.

Whatever is noble, whatever is dignified, whatever is reverent, whatever is lofty, not trashy, mundane, and common. Whatever is worthy of awe, whatever is held in high regard, whatever is greatly respected, whatever is worthy of adoration, that’s what I and we need to think about.

Does you attitude about life give God the praise He deserves?

I will make an everlasting covenant with them that I will not turn away from them to do them good… I will rejoice over them to do them good…
Jeremiah 32:40, 41

How do you think about life’s negative circumstances? Are you convinced that God is good even when life seems to have it out for you?

We are going to stop the gears from turning the wrong way. We are going to start the gears turning the right way. We choose to do biblically correct thinking about our circumstances.

John 16:33
In me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.

The peace comes when we are "in Christ."
Jesus said, "In me you may have peace." Jesus is stressing the location of peace. It is in himself! He doesn’t say that peace is in religion. He doesn’t say that peace is in a job, in a location, or in some human relationship. He doesn’t say that peace is in financial security. He says that it’s in me.
Whenever the gears are grinding the wrong way, whenever we have a afflicted attitude, whenever we have been attacked with a attitude of worthlessness or loveless-ness or bitterness, go to the Lord Jesus Christ.

Through Jesus, only you and your mind can get in gear!


Sunday, August 7, 2011

Debt Delusions


There are more than 2,000 verses teaching about finances in the Bible. As my church gets ready to start Financial Peace University #9, I wanted to write my thoughts on finances you probably won’t like me much after you finish reading it though. Still needs to be said. This blog is especially written to those, like myself, who have been (or are) caught by the “Debt Delusions”.

Proverbs 21:5 “The plans of the diligent lead surely to advantage, but everyone who is hasty comes surely to poverty.”

Luke 14:28-30 “For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who observe it begin to ridicule him, saying, This man began to build and was not able to finish.”

How many of you have enjoyed playing the game MONOPOLY? You know how the game works. Players accumulate property, build houses and hotels, and then wait for the other players to land on their property so they have to pay up. Eventually you hope to bankrupt everyone else and have all the money and property. America at its best!

Regardless of who wins the game, when the game is finished, the board is folded up, all the game pieces are put away, and the lid goes on the box. It has only been a game.

Owning a Rolls Royce, an extravagant house, and living a “the Rich and Famous” life will yield no more joy for eternity than winning at MONOPOLY. When your life is over, the game pieces are put away, and the lid is closed on your coffin. It won’t really matter who owned the railroads or Boardwalk.

Earthly wealth doesn’t guarantee earthly happiness or heavenly treasure.

Something is obviously going seriously wrong in our country. More and more people are spending more than they make each month. if we are going to be set free from financial bondage we need to understand that debt is a symptom, not the root problem. Materialism is the problem. (1 Tim. 6:9-10, Luke 12:15)

When we take our children to buy a Happy Meal. You’re not just buying fries, McNuggets, and a dinosaur stamp; you’re buying happiness. Their advertisements have convinced our children that: "Our hearts are restless till we find our rest in a happy meal."

The problem with the Happy Meal is that the happy wears off, and they need a new fix. No child discovers lasting happiness in just one and say: "Remember that Happy Meal? What great joy I found there!"

Happy Meals bring happiness only to McDonalds. You ever wonder why Ronald McDonald wears that grin? Twenty billion Happy Meals, that’s why. When you get older, you don’t get any smarter; your happy meals just get more expensive.

There is a lie that Satan uses over and over again to lure people away from the life that God desires for them. It’s the “Happy Meal” lie. Buy this and you will be happy. Get rich and your problems will disappear. It is the lie that materialism will fill the empty place inside.

It doesn’t matter whether we earn a little or a lot, whether we spend everything or hoard it all. When we find ourselves in financial bondage we are preoccupied with money. We become anxious about meeting present obligations, and are driven to get more money and the things money can buy.

The good news for all of us here today is that God is concerned about our financial affairs. He is not only concerned, he can teach us the right way to handle our money and he will bless us in the process. God knows all too well that the love of money leads to all kinds of evil. He knows that materialism is a trap and that many people have fallen into it and have been plunged into ruin and destruction.

That is why God’s Word has so much to say about the proper perspective toward money and proper principles for handling it.

For those of you who haven’t taken Financial Peace with Dave Ramsey, here are a few tips that the bible says:

Financial freedom: we must work to earn a living-
1. The Bible teaches that we should strive to earn an honest living.
2. When God created Adam, he took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it (Gen. 2:15)
3. 2 Thessalonians 3:12, 10 “In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we command and urge such people to settle down and earn the bread they eat” “We gave you this rule: If a man will not work, he shall not eat”
4. 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you. So that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.”

BUT! There is a big difference between all of us and our abilities to make a living.
1. Some have many more abilities than others and many have worked very hard to make themselves more marketable by receiving years training and schooling. We are who we are, where we are, and we have to do the best we can for the glory of God.
2. The best way to advancement of any kind is to work hard in whatever situation we are in. Those people who sit back and “wait for their ship to come in”, must realize that ships don’t come in, we have to swim out to them.
3. Jesus taught in the Parable of the Minas that the servant who proved himself was rewarded with more opportunity. Jesus said, “Well done, my good servant…because you have been trustworthy in a very small matter, take charge of ten cities” Luke 19:17.

Okay, so here is the “No Brainer” Tip, AVOID DEBT!

1. Indebtedness is a crippling epidemic in our culture. Consumer debt sits like an invisible elephant in the center of far too many homes, including Christian homes.
2. What we sometimes fail to understand is the way debt works against us. When the credit card company sends their cards, they don’t attach an instruction sheet explaining how 27% (this can be larger) interest works for them and against us when we don’t pay off our bill.


Have you ever heard people say, “I just don’t know where my money goes?” The reason they don’t know where it goes is because they don’t look. And they don’t look because they don’t want to know (been there, done that). Bringing design to our money management requires that we assess how much we have, identify what is coming in, track what we spend it on, and estimate what we will have for the future.

One person described the function of a budget as “telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went.”
Another person said, “Money talks and mine always says – good-bye.”
Ever use fly paper? As a kid in New Jersey, I remember mom hanging it in our house…it was somewhat curly, and she would hang it from the ceiling…I thought it was Christmas or something! Well, fly paper has on its surface a sweet, honey-like substance, which is also very sticky. It’s a simple principle: the fly approaches saying, I want the honey, want the honey, and want the honey! He lands and begins to eat, saying, I got the honey, got the honey, got the honey…and he tries to leave.
Then the paper says, I got the fly, got the fly, got the fly!

We avoid budgeting because we want to spend impulsively, and a budget requires that we sort out the difference between needs and wants. If we really value financial freedom, then a budget is invaluable. Many people today run around saying, I want the money, want the money, want the money…and before they know it, the money has got them!

So, now here’s the biggest TIP!,

GIVE to GOD!!!

People who are financially free are in a position to be generous. Because they have been intentional with their finances, they are not strapped by debt and are in a position to respond generously for kingdom purposes and to the needs of others.

Giving to the Lord cannot wait until we have financial freedom! It must begin immediately, regardless of the situation we are in.

When we find ourselves financially strapped, the first thing to go out the window is usually our giving to the Lord. There are plenty of scriptures that support this. The best proof, ask anybody who is following this principle. They will have some testimony for you.
In Africa, there’s a certain monkey that’s considered a delicacy to eat (yummy, bring me a fork and knife!) They have a proven method for capturing these monkeys. The build a little box, put a whole in the side of the box, and fill the box w/ nuts and fruit. The hole is just big enough for the monkey to slide his hand thru, but once he grabs the food, making a fist, he can’t get it back out thru the hole! And he will stand there for hours, rather than to drop the food!
Matter of fact, he’s so greedy for the food, the natives can actually walk right up to him, and knock him in the head…he would rather commit monkey-cide than to drop that food.

Some are committing financial suicide, because they won’t let go of the tithe!

We obviously need to make money, avoid dept and most importantly tithe. It’s a decision, a habit and God’s principal. You do want to do God’s work…. Right?
(Stay tuned for my next blog. It will help you make the right decision about finances and life itself!)

Friday, August 5, 2011

Single Life to Date


I want to be honest with you. I have always been bad at dating. I am really bad at dating. I think that one of the reasons that I am so bad was because I had a great fear of rejection. Every time that I wanted to ask someone out on a date, I would be paralyzed with fear. I would get so nervous because I was afraid that they would say “no”.

Guys, you can back me up. It’s hard to ask a girl out on a date. And it’s maybe even harder because girls have such large repertoires of one liners to say “no” in a nice way. Like…I’m busy this weekend.

The first person I asked out on a date, her response was—well, I’m busy this weekend. My naive hope was that maybe she really is busy this weekend. So I said—well, what about the next weekend? And then her response was—well, I’m pretty much busy every weekend for the remainder of the year.

I asked her out in January! She either just had a really busy 1977 or she really didn’t want to go out with me the first time I asked her. I don’t know.

My second favorite line is, you ask someone out and they say—that’s sweet, but I would rather just remain friends? Groan!

You might as well have a light flashing, because the translation of this is—I would rather have a root canal than go out with you. Dating is hard and as you can see, I still have emotional scars as my dating life continues.

Take a look at what the Bible says about what God’s design for our dating life is. Let me be straightforward and honest from the very beginning, I didn’t find a lot in the Bible that’s directly about dating. And the reason is, because people didn’t date back then as we do today. In fact, a lot of their marriages were arranged (now that I’m a little more mature this doesn’t sound like a bad idea) and they didn’t have the system of where you socialized, go out on dates, get engaged and get married.

Proverbs 3:5 “Trust God from the bottom of your heart. Don’t try to figure out everything on your own.”

That’s hard, isn’t it? Trusting God. Trusting God in any area is difficult, but trusting God, especially in the area of our dating relationships, is very hard. You see, we tend to want to force a relationship instead of waiting on God, because we don’t want to spend time alone. Loneliness is the number one social disease. It’s our greatest fear. Sometimes, in our attempts to cure our loneliness, we make big mistakes by stepping outside of God’s will for our life and into a relationship that can be destructive or unhealthy for us.

I read a article this week from a Christian woman who reflected that most woman in the USA, especially Christians women, usually start out wanting God’s best for their life. They are wanting to stay within God’s will and looking for that Mr. Right in their life, but after a while, if they face frustration and get discouraged, they will usually step outside of God’s best for their life and into a relationship that could be destructive in order to avoid being alone. This can and does lead to disaster in your relationship, in your dating life. So, how do we learn to trust God in this area of dating?

It’s the prevailing philosophy in our culture, “it’s a date, who cares about a mate?” This philosophy says, it is never good to have a weekend without a date. This philosophy says date as many people as you can and it doesn’t matter who they are, it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you are having a lot of fun.

Now a good friend of mine when I was in college bought into this philosophy and had his own saying. His saying was—“date all you can and can all you date.” It may take a few minutes for some of you to figure out what he was saying. This philosophy is unhealthy. It is not in our best interest because it ultimately sabotages our desire to find the right person, the person that God might have for us.

Another philosophy goes to the complete opposite end of the spectrum. This philosophy says—“never date unless you plan to mate.” This proposes that dating itself is bad. That it brings up too many temptations. Too many things can go wrong. So you should avoid the dating process. Instead, dating should start the engagement stage and so you find the person that you are going to marry and then you enter into a stage of dating. The problem and the question that I had with this philosophy is, how are you going to find the right person if you never spend time with them and you are just going to guess and then enter into the dating stage. So that one is difficult as well.
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The last philosophy I am going to suggest is a view of dating and it’s the one that I am going to propose (Pun intended)—date to discover your mate. And this philosophy says that dating is a process that I can enjoy but whose main purpose is to discover is if the person that I am dating, is a person that I can or should marry. Now, I believe this is a view that allows us the best opportunity to enjoy dating, while at the same time, staying within God’s plan/boundaries for our life. Seeking God’s best for our life.

The Apostle Paul says this should be our goal.

II Corinthians 2, “Our goal is to stay within the boundaries of God’s plan for us.”

You see, you can enjoy dating and you can discover God’s plan for your dating life, but only if you commit to staying within God’s boundaries. We receive the maximum enjoyment and maximum blessing that God can give to us. Can I get a Amen!


If we are looking for the right person, we have to commit to stay within God’s boundaries for dating. It is unrealistic for you to think that you can step outside of God’s plan and God’s will for your dating life, and still expect God to bless that relationship, or expect God to bring in the right person into the wrong situation.

God can’t bless it. God can’t bring the right person, until you are living within His plan for your life. So to receive God’s full blessings in this area, we have to follow what God says is best for us.

Matthew 6:33 “God will give you everything you need from day to day, if you give Him first place in your life and live as He wants you to.”

We can’t control everything, and it’s not our job to control everything, because we’re not God. What our job is, is to give God first place in our life and to trust Him with every area of our life. In return, God promises to bring His very best into our life whether we are single, or whether we are married. The key is to give God first place and to trust Him with our dating lives. That is something that we can all do.

This is my and should be your, Single life to date!

Monday, August 1, 2011

Survival Kit


Americans are obsessed with survival. How so many people fight and scratch for the right to kill their unborn children and sick grandparents and pass every conceivable law to keep them alive in-between. We’ve put into law seat-belts and bike helmets and banned lead-based paint. To guard our children’s fragile self-esteem, we’ve banned dodge-ball and picking teams and keeping score.

I remember as a kid riding in cars with no air bags, no seat belts, and metal dashboards. We rode in the back of pickups. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors, or cabinets, and when we rode our bikes we didn’t wear helmets. We drank water from the garden hose.

We would spend hours building go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into trees & bushes a few times, we figured out the problem. We played dodge ball and sometimes the ball would really hurt.

Now, I’m all for survival. But, as usual, we’ve taken an issue and run away with it. We’ve gotten just a bit carried away. Now a days, we need a survival kit to protect us from survival issues.

If you have read my writing you know I’m leading up to some biblical scripture that has importance pertaining to my examples. Well! Guess what? I’m going to do just that…
This survival thing that most families today take into there own lives. I have come up with a spiritual survival kit of a different sort.

Matthew 28:19-20:
19 "Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age."
Item #1: a Toothpick - to remind you to pick out the good in others, pick that which is good and pure to follow.

Philippians 4:8-9:
8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-- think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me-- put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
Item #2: a Rubber band - to remind you to be flexible. Things don’t always go your way, but they will work out because you have been called and he loves you!

Colossians 3:12-14:
12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Item #3: a Band Aid - to remind you to heal hurt feelings better bring plenty though. A lot of people are hurting these days and they may need to borrow yours.



Ephesians 1:3:
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.
Item #4: a Pencil - to remind you to list your blessings everyday. Make sure it’s sharp or you may miss something!

Colossians 3:13-14:
13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all.
Item #5: an Eraser - to remind you that everyone makes mistakes.

Colossians 3:13-14:
13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all
Item #6: Chewing Gum - to remind you to stick with it and you can accomplish anything. (I usually get sugar free, but I need all the sugar God has for me!)

Philippians 4:13:
I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Item #8: a Paper Clip – you can bend it into any shape to remind you of your strength in him.

John 3:16-18:
16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.
Item #7: Mint - to remind you that you are worth a mint, were talking more than Fort Knox here everybody!

II Corinthians 13:12-14:
12 Greet one another with a holy kiss. 13 All the saints send their greetings. 14 May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.
Item #8: Candy Kiss - To remind you that everyone needs a hug or a kiss



I Thessalonians 5:16-19:.
16 Be joyful always; 17 pray continually; 18 give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 19 Do not put out the Spirit’s fire;
Item #9: Tea Bag - To remind you to relax and trust the Lord as you go over your list of blessings

John 3:16:
16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.
Item #10: a Nail - To remind you that Jesus loves you period

Matthew 9:35-38:
35 Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, preaching the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. 36 When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. 37 Then he said to his disciples, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. 38 Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field."
Item # 11: Glasses - To see the needs of others.

There are many other things you can add to your kit as well. Be it shoe strings to remind you to run the race or maybe buy yourself a Honda to remind you of fellowship. What, you don’t understand the Honda reference???

Don’t you remember where they were all sitting in one ACCORD in the book of Acts?

The thing is this, don’t forget to remember the who, what, where, when, why and how!
Who? ‘God’ who loves you!
What? ‘The Word of God’ is what he wants you to know!
Where? ‘Heaven’ that’s were the party is!
When? ‘When he calls you’!
Why? Because ‘He Loves you’ without exception!
How? Through the ‘Blood of Jesus’ you are saved!

That’s the true survival kit!