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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Inconsistent


If you were to look at my truck, you’d see a cross on the tailgate, a cross hanging from the rearview mirror, a bible in the backseat and few Christian related material and media. Walk in my home you’ll see a few bibles, scripture and crosses on the wall and many Christian related material and media. Yet at times, I feel I should be arrested for impersonating a consistent Christian.

Galatians 2:14 - But when I saw that they were not acting consistently with the truth of the gospel, I said to Cephas before them all, "If you, though a Jew, live like a Gentile and not like a Jew, how can you compel the Gentiles to live like Jews?"

  In this section of Scripture and specifically, Galatians 2:1-14 the Apostle Paul was in Jerusalem. He analyzed the situation there and realized Peter and the others were not walking straightforward. They were walking in contrary to the biblical truths in the Gospel. They were being inconsistent.

For the longest time I have been trying to figure out how others see me. I shouldn’t do this because all that really matters is how God sees me…with Love and Hope. We all do this though. It can be as simple as saying how do I look today? Or do you think I can do this? I have heard a word spoken to describe me but I never really quite believed them till I had completely fallen and was struggling to get up. That word was “Inconsistent”.

That word hit me like a ton of bricks. I lost sleep; I struggled; I even tried to put it out of my mind but it just came back…consistently. The next day when I got out of bed and went through my morning rituals, I researched the word inconsistent. “Holy Adjectives, Batman…they were right!”  I am inconsistent.

Wikipedia defines Inconsistent as: (copied right from the Wiki page):
1.       in·con·sist·ent
1.       Adjective
2.       Not staying the same throughout; having self-contradictory elements.
3.       Acting at variance with one's own principles or former conduct: "parents can be inconsistent".
I’d like to add a bullet point to that though – 4. Not walking according to God’s Word.
I read somewhere that there are 3 kinds of Christians: Believers, Unbelievers and Make-Believers. We all should know what a believer and an unbeliever are but the Make-Believers influence the 2 first types with their inconsistencies.  It only takes one by the way. Most of the devastating plagues of our history were started by one person bringing it to a different part of the world.
Same goes with believers, one inconsistent or disloyal believer can hurt the whole church.  In 1 Corinthians 12 and in verse 26 Paul states… "...if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it."
Have you ever broken a bone in your foot? The bones in your feet are tiny in caparison to other bones in your body. If you ever broken a toe or even a bone that sits on top of your foot…you limp, need crutches or a wheel chair – it affects the whole body!!! Ecclesiastes 9:18 states – “Wisdom is better than weapons of war, but one sinner destroys much good.”
The verses that really got to me is in Romans Chapter 2 verses 18 thru 24:
“…if you know his will and approve of what is superior because you are instructed by the law;   if you are convinced that you are a guide for the blind, a light for those who are in the dark,   an instructor of the foolish, a teacher of little children, because you have in the law the embodiment of knowledge and truth, then, who teach others, do you not teach yourself? You who preach against stealing, do you steal?  You who say that people should not commit adultery, do you commit adultery? You who abhor idols, do you rob temples?  You who boast in the law, do you dishonor God by breaking the law? As it is written: “God’s name is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.”
Then I looked into the why. Why am I inconsistent?  Proverbs 29:25 “The fear (pride) of man brings a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe.”
Pride…need I say more?
A friend of mine owns property in the Keystone area of Tampa. His property sits on a lake but to get to it, you have to drive down a long road because other people own property that surrounds it. He doesn’t own this road but the other property owners allow him to use this bit of land so he can access his home. When we are less than 100 % Christians, the Devil is using that same type of access road to get to us. God allows us access to him as long as we stay on the right road. We get into trouble when we are inconsistent with the access roads we travel. Inconsistent when we allow the snares in our lives free travel down these access roads.
The point I’m making here is we need to guard our hearts: walk consistent to his word; and walk circumspectly. This means we watch for the snares of life and not just walk blindly.  When we see or find a snare we should look for an opportunity to honor and glorify Christ.  We must be careful where we step but walk upright and honest.
I am currently reading a book about life and golf called, “The Mulligan”. As I was reading the book this morning I thought back to the time where I met a very special golfer…he was blind. I had asked him how in the world could he play golf blind. He simply explained the caddy would describe distance, hazards and set him up for the shot. Then the caddy would go out in front of him and ring a bell to help with aiming. I was truly amazed at this.
Then the golfer asked if I’d like to play a game of golf with him which I refused because frankly, I’d beat the pants off him. He simply stated, “We’ll play for 100 dollars if you’d like.” I was still doubtful but I agreed. The blind golfer then said, “Meet me here at 11:00……..PM!”
We all walked in the dark at one time but it’s the light of Christ that should guide us. We need to consistently walk in his steps and light.
 
 Ephesians 4:17 This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind.”
 
 

                                                                                                                                                                 

 

Friday, January 25, 2013

Who's your Buddy?


I was thinking about prayer today. I do pray every day but lately, I don’t feel very effective in prayer. I get up every morning, sit on my porch and start my prayer. My prayer usually goes like, ‘Good Morning Papa God. Another great day is starting and I want to thank you.” So I thank him; I ask for forgiveness and then I list my needs and wants. I know this sounds kind of selfish but at least I pray…but like I said, not very effectively. It just seems like I have been going through the motions…KnowhatImean?

I have been reading a book called, “The Mulligan” by Ken Blanchard and Wally Armstrong. To say it’s an inspiring book would be saying way too little. It’s an awesome book! It’s all about golf…well… and life. Wait; let me say that again, it’s about life through the disciplines of golf.

I am at the section of the book were it describes how to begin your day and your golf game. If you have ever played golf or any sport for that matter you know you have to warm up. Some stretch; some hit balls on the driving range and some do both. What’s this got to do with life? Well the same principles are involved. You have to stretch and go to the driving range to warm up.

Some of us begin our day with this warm up: Go to the bathroom; start the coffee; turn on the TV to the Local news and traffic; drink our coffee; get dressed; kiss our spouses and children (please…only if this applies to you); fix our appearance and walk out the door for work. What’s wrong with this picture? Not really anything… but don’t complain if your day doesn’t go quite the way you expect it.

A better example of warming up for the day could be: Getting up and finding a quiet place to have a cup of coffee, relax and pray…not necessarily in that order mind you. If you have to go to the bathroom before this no worries, don’t concentrate so much on the mechanics…the key is to relax and pray with no distractions. Later on you can read your word, check out traffic and get ready for work. This time is God and you…he deserves your attention.

Even in prayer though, we sometimes go through the motions in the morning. We know we need to pray each morning; we know we have a lot to do today so we rush through our prayer mechanically and duplicate the process of speaking to God. We pretty much say the same prayer each day just different words stuck in at convenient locations.

In the book, “The Mulligan” its simple stated, “It’s so easy to think of prayer as an event or obligation rather than as a way of life. It’s simply talking to a friend along the course of your day from the start to finish.”

That really got me thinking… when I pray in the morning to God and in privacy. I have been praying as if there is a group of people listening to the prayer. God is our Father; God loves us; God is our best friend…is that how we talk to our loved ones or our friends.

No.

So why do we get all ritualistic and traditional when we pray to the Lord? Why should we ever pray like that?

I don’t know about you…but I am going right now and talk to my buddy like I talk to you! God is our buddy….when’s the last time you just talked to him.

Matthew 6:5-8 "And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. I tell you the truth; they have received their reward in full but when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then you’re Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

 

Monday, January 7, 2013

A Perfekt Parent


A Perfekt Parent

·        The chances of a peanut butter sandwich falling jelly side down is directly proportionate to the cost of the carpeting.

·        Your child always remembers to take garbage out when the Trash truck has just passed your house.

·        Sick children recover remarkably fast as the doctor walks in the room.

·        Chances of being seen by someone dramatically increase based on the unkempt state of your hair on the way to school.

 

Sound crazy; it’s all part of being a parent.  A few years ago I was demonstrating the art of the whoopee cushion with my son (does this shock you…..passing gas humor is great entertainment with a father and son). The phone rang and my son sprang up to get it. As I proudly listened to his conversation I realized, he was talking to a Pastor of our church. The Pastor must have asked if I was around and my son proudly announced, “Yes….he’s showing me how to make Whoopee!!!

 

By the way…I DO NOT claim to be a perfect parent. That being said, 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 states:

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. (NIV version)

(Paul’s Parental Version)  If I offer the best child rearing advice, but have not love, I am only a 2 year old banging on pots in the kitchen. If I read many, many, many books on child rising and attend parenting class but have not love, I am nothing. If I spend every cent I have to provide for my children but have not love, I lose a lot!!!

 

LOVE:

 

99.95% of most parents say they love their kids. My question for you and myself are our children seeing love in action in our homes? I find within myself an amazing capacity to be critical of my son. I see positives in him but probably could tell him more often of these positives. Positive strengthening of my son instead of always harping on his weaknesses. Doesn’t Corinthians speak of “Love building up”?

 

Let me take this one step further, shouldn’t our children see their parents love each other? That’s a little easier when you have a 2 parent home, but what if your divorced? Often the child may here either one of the divorced parents slandering, being negative about the other parent. Often divorced parents don’t show love for each other…the children see and note all of this.

 

One of the best things a child can see is there parents loving each other. Children might get grossed out when they see their parents kiss, but they are much happier when they know their parents are in love. Let me ask you this: What’s the one thing you CAN take to heaven with you?

a)      Money

b)      Your job

c)       House

d)      Children

If you answered children, you’re correct I can’t think of a greater responsibility for a parent than to do all he or she can to lead a child to Christ and train him or her to serve Him. We can usually make time for what we really want to do. Spending time with our children needs to be made a priority. We only have a limited amount of time to be a positive influence in the lives of your children.

DISCIPLINE:

I read a study online that stated: “Pediatricians and psychologists are finding today’s parents are too permissive. They are reluctant to set limits for their children. And this parental neglect is harming kids from the ages of nine months to adolescence.”

This is where I am weak…discipline of my son.  I have to keep reminding myself of this verse: “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” Hebrews 12:11

When I read this next verse, I went out and bought me a new fishing pole. “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death” Pr. 23:13-14

Discipline must be exercised in such a way as to lead children to respect their parents. It must not be done in anger or frustration, inconsistent, unreasonable, excessive, etc. Are you setting proper boundaries for your children? When those boundaries are broken, are you disciplining them in love? You can give your children all sorts of nice things, but what they need most is your love and discipline.

Like I said, I’m not the perfect parent…who is.